Definitely not Coachella. But still fun.
I really couldn’t tell you exactly what the event was…we were in a golf course in Pinehurst. There was a car show. The Commodores played.
It was seriously way fun, though. We got to pretend that we were rich, middle aged entrepreneurs for the evening.
My husband and his friend Jesse were helping out with the event all day, and Koehna (Jesse’s fiancee) and I drove over in the evening to support them. We had a great drive (Koehna bought me a sandwich from our local Co-op and it was amazing) and had just enough time to grab a beer and sit down before the band started.
The Commodores are the band who sings “Brick House” – if you didn’t know. They also sing a lot of other songs that many of the “older adults” around me knew all the words to but I had never heard before. Those guys on stage could get it though! Wow. They were fun to watch. Their last song was “Brick House” – of course – and Koehna and I ran to the front and danced, laughed and “felt young again” with a bunch of 50 year olds. It was one-in-a-lifetime! And no, when one of the Commodores came to the end of the stage to give T-shirts to the women who were indeed, “Brick Houses” – we were not selected. Ce la vie. Maybe next time. (I blame it on the fact that I was wearing my glasses and David’s baseball cap.)
This man was my highlight – his perfect afro and even more perfect dance moves. At the end of the night he grabbed his chairs and danced away down the sidewalk. Amazing.
A couple weeks ago I had the enormous pleasure of going on my church’s annual women’s beach trip. Always such a relaxing and rejuvenating time. I’m blessed to go to the church that I do – the women are so loving. We really are a family.
One of the first days I went on a long walk on the beach. I listened to Turnadot and Ghost Ship and The Brilliance. It was such a great time of reflection. I got a sunburn but it was totally worth it. I love those times when it’s just me and God, hanging out. He tells me He loves me, that I’m special to him, that He has a plan for me. God is so good.
Breakfast on the deck with some fabulous ladies.
Our traditional lunch at Provision Co. – SHRIMP BURGERS
Today is the most perfect rainy day. A slow drizzle, thick drops that go “tap tap tap” on the roof. The birds are still singing, but the sun is away. All I want to do is hunker down for a big ole bear nap with Dave. Take me back to our Valentines Day slumber party – we made a big bed in the living room out of cushions and pillows and blankets and watched Netflix and ate pizza and it was glorious.
Cook with wine. In your glass and in your recipe. There’s no feeling in the world that says, “I’m basically a french chef” then one hand holding a glass of red and the other hand adding a generous dash to a pan of sizzling onions. Seriously. (Speaking of wine, use the correct glasses with your alcohol. Unless you’re at a barbecue, pour your beer into a tall, cold glass with an inch of foamy, creamy head. Pour your wine into a delicate wine glass just begging to be swirled. Picture yourself in Mad Men and drink scotch from a fabulous tumbler. I guarantee you’ll feel awesome.)
Have nice PJs. “You know, nothing makes me feel sexier/more awesome than coming home from a hard day at work and putting on a grimy old t shirt and big underwear” said no one ever. You only need a couple items to make sleep and lounge-time feel extra awesome: a chemise with a soft robe or draped cardigan , a couple sets like this and this, something sexy and luxuriously expensive, and of course, something warm. A good plan would be to find 2-3 PJ tops, 2-3 PJs bottoms and 1-2 Night Gowns, one light robe or cardigan, one thick robe and a pair of slippers – keep the colors similar, mix and match for ultimate “I have my life together” feelings.
Clean out your purse, clean out your car and keep them that way. When I hop into my jeep and it smells like mold and is filled with old receipts and dirty coffee cups I feel like Ismell like mold and am filled with trash. A quick trash pick-up, a shake of the mats and a new air freshener are probably all it will take for a pick-me-up. A clean car is seriously a luxury and a tidy purse says, “I care about me so you should too.” (especially when you keep some Honest Co. Hand Sanitizer and a pack of Spry inside so every time you open it up you smell orange minty perfection) Do it. It feels good.
Speaking of cars, make your favorite music readily available when you drive. Please don’t go out and buy a $10,000 sound system, but definitely keep what it takes so that you can have a happy, musical driving experience. For me that means a CD case full of music mixes my friends made for me + a tape deck converter to plug into my cell phone for instant Spotify action.
Speaking of music, just go ahead and make it readily available everywhere and totally awesome. Go ahead and create a couple mixes on your laptop or cell phone so you’re ready for any one of this situations at a moments notice: dinner party, a party with friends, a party with family, holiday, something chill and something to get your blood pumping to clean the house or kill your workout. You’re welcome to check out my spotify account for inspiration, though beware, it needs streamlining. Oh, and one last thing, get some good earbuds (I like to keep the style simple, adult and classy – no glitter please) and keep them in your purse.
Eat al fresco (dine outside). Feel fabulous with a glass of pinot grigio and a soft summer breeze in your hair.
Do you drink coffee? Learn how to make it better, yummier: try a Chemex, a French press or a higher quality k-cup. Buy a beautiful mug that fits perfectly in your hand and makes you smile every time you see it. Don’t just chug it down, but sip slowly. Notice how the steam dances off the surface and the feeling of warm ceramic in your palms. Breathe and enjoy. (Don’t like coffee? This concept works with anything that you enjoy on a daily basis. Take something that you enjoy but rush through or take for granted, and then make it special and awesome. Turn a routine into a special occasion)
Buy fresh flowers for yourself. Put them somewhere that you’ll see them every day. This is especially wonderful when you’re having a bad day.
Splurge on that amazing lotion that makes you feel like a total queen every time you use it.And then use it. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Use it every single day, because guess what? Every day is a special occasion.
What are some ways that you make every day special? How do you create that feeling of awesome? That life upgrade”?
If you feel down or anxious due to the weather, here are a few easy tips and tricks to combat those winter blues:
Clean up. Being inside all day means that the house can get messy fast. Take a quick tour of your home, pick up any clutter, straighten the pillows, wash the dishes and give your dining room table a quick wipe down. Last, light a candle and watch it flicker for a second. Be in that moment. Take a few breaths.
Turn on some happy tunes. Music really can change your mood. Keep it up beat or relaxing. Something to bring peace to your home and to your day.
Have a cup of tea. Make your favorite kind (maybe even a health or de-stress tea!) and then take a beat to sit in a comfy spot and two hand sip the entire thing. Thing of it as meditation.
Go for a walk. Yes, outside is miserable, but bundle up and go out there anyway. If nothing else, the cold elements will make your home feel cozier.
Get social. Meet someone for lunch or coffee. Face-time your bestie. Call your mom. Talking with someone will make you feel less isolated, like maybe the walls aren’t closing in after all.
Try these tips all together and maybe, just maybe you’ll remember that winter won’t last forever, spring will come and one day you’ll see the sun again. Oh and listen to this.
** P.S. If you feel like your depression is more then just “seasonal blues”, please see a doctor.**