It’s ok…

It’s ok to be have a lazy Friday morning in bed. Because we all need to rest.

It’s ok to have that second cup of coffee. (or third…or fourth…)

It’s ok if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up.

It’s ok to take a nap.

It’s ok to not like your job, house, car, whatever. As long as you can accept it  & let it go. Don’t let it consume your life.

It’s ok to say, “No.”

It’s ok to not be busy.

It’s ok to not be perfect.


The other day I met a lady who was, how do I say this nicely…Totes perf. Or at least, she wanted to appear that way. She knew alllll things (lucky her) and she portrayed absolutely no imperfections or problems. And um…how do I say this nicely…I was not a fan of this woman.

Truth is, she probably worked really hard for that perfect persona. She organized, cleaned, scheduled, tied her scarf and applied her lipstick with precision and excellence. Don’t get me wrong, she may have been awesome. I am only speaking by what I saw. So while I don’t mean to totally judge this lady, I did learn (or re-learn, for the umpteenth time) a valuable lesson from her.

You see, I am one of those people who tries my best to be “perfect”. I remember even when I was a preteen asking myself, “Ok, what do I need to do to be perfect?” And then I would do those things. Apparently I’m quite a case of ridiculousness because as hard as I tried to get everything right, I was still suuuuch a mess. (Honestly though, I’m pretty sure we all feel that way. Some are just better at hiding it) At the same time, my relationships suffered. And I wondered, “Why don’t I have any close friends? Why don’t people love me? Don’t they see how perfect I am?” 

Bringing it all together, my mind realized that no one likes a perfect person. It’s discouraging. It’s fake. It isn’t possible.

Elisa, you’ve got issues…You’ve got a lot of laziness. You’re awkward. You’re clumsy and dorky. You are extremely loud and sneeze like a lumberjack. You really just like to wear flannels and leggings. You can’t ever think of the right word. You’re insecure. You’re a people pleaser. And you can’t stand it when someone doesn’t like you. 

Do you have any of those thoughts? Well, let me remind you…in all your faults…

You are loved.

And the more you show people your imperfections, the more you allow them  into your life, your heart – you allow them to love you. The real you.

So instead of focusing on all the things you do right or wrong – focus on loving people.

Instead of listing all of your faults (or all of the ways you’re better then everyone else}, list all the things you’re grateful for.

Stop the competition. Open up your heart to kindness, joy, peace and fellowship.

Take off the mask of “Perfect”, ya’ll. No one likes it anyway.

Be real. Be genuine. Be wrong. Be loved.

But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us,not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that being justified by his grace we might become heirs according to the hope of eternal life. {Titus 3:4-7}