It’s ok…

It’s ok to be have a lazy Friday morning in bed. Because we all need to rest.

It’s ok to have that second cup of coffee. (or third…or fourth…)

It’s ok if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up.

It’s ok to take a nap.

It’s ok to not like your job, house, car, whatever. As long as you can accept it  & let it go. Don’t let it consume your life.

It’s ok to say, “No.”

It’s ok to not be busy.

It’s ok to not be perfect.

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The other day I met a lady who was, how do I say this nicely…Totes perf. Or at least, she wanted to appear that way. She knew alllll things (lucky her) and she portrayed absolutely no imperfections or problems. And um…how do I say this nicely…I was not a fan of this woman.

Truth is, she probably worked really hard for that perfect persona. She organized, cleaned, scheduled, tied her scarf and applied her lipstick with precision and excellence. Don’t get me wrong, she may have been awesome. I am only speaking by what I saw. So while I don’t mean to totally judge this lady, I did learn (or re-learn, for the umpteenth time) a valuable lesson from her.

You see, I am one of those people who tries my best to be “perfect”. I remember even when I was a preteen asking myself, “Ok, what do I need to do to be perfect?” And then I would do those things. Apparently I’m quite a case of ridiculousness because as hard as I tried to get everything right, I was still suuuuch a mess. (Honestly though, I’m pretty sure we all feel that way. Some are just better at hiding it) At the same time, my relationships suffered. And I wondered, “Why don’t I have any close friends? Why don’t people love me? Don’t they see how perfect I am?” 

Bringing it all together, my mind realized that no one likes a perfect person. It’s discouraging. It’s fake. It isn’t possible.

Elisa, you’ve got issues…You’ve got a lot of laziness. You’re awkward. You’re clumsy and dorky. You are extremely loud and sneeze like a lumberjack. You really just like to wear flannels and leggings. You can’t ever think of the right word. You’re insecure. You’re a people pleaser. And you can’t stand it when someone doesn’t like you. 

Do you have any of those thoughts? Well, let me remind you…in all your faults…

You are loved.

And the more you show people your imperfections, the more you allow them  into your life, your heart – you allow them to love you. The real you.

So instead of focusing on all the things you do right or wrong – focus on loving people.

Instead of listing all of your faults (or all of the ways you’re better then everyone else}, list all the things you’re grateful for.

Stop the competition. Open up your heart to kindness, joy, peace and fellowship.

Take off the mask of “Perfect”, ya’ll. No one likes it anyway.

Be real. Be genuine. Be wrong. Be loved.

But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us,not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that being justified by his grace we might become heirs according to the hope of eternal life. {Titus 3:4-7}

Resolved.

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1. Go on more adventures. This past year, David and I would spend our weekends binging netflix and doing lots of cuddling. Is this the best thing in the world? Yes. Does it improve us? Grow us? and make us better people? Maybe every once and a while, but every weekend – NO. So this morning I googled some awesome and free weekend-y adventures, wrote them on slips of paper and put them in a jar. These aren’t things that are tough to do, but they might stretch us and hopefully get us out of the house. And we can make some good memories!

2. Simplify + Enjoy. Basically my life mantra right here. I want to decrease (or eliminate!) stress and materialism. I want to learn to sit still and not workworkwork (even mentally!). To let my mind rest and savor the moment. I had a lot of stress headaches in 2014 (due to my personality more than actual life situations) and I’m hoping to get rid of those and replace them with peace of mind and lots of laughs.

3. Improve my business. Did you know I have an etsy? Well, I do. And it’s sorely neglected. I sell vintage clothing and accessories. I freaking LOVE vintage clothing and accessories. I need more of this in my life.

4. Let go. I’ve been reading Lara Casey’s book, Make It Happen. A serious God-send, I was in tears within the first 3 pages. I have a serious need to control all situations and it’s not pleasant (for me or for Dave…or anyone around me, really). This year I want to let go of the control. Give God the keys. And enjoy the ride.

5. Be healthy. This means overall wellness. Such a pleasant image in my mind. This means every day making good choices, and having grace for myself when I really want pizza. Oh and I’m cutting out alcohol and soda COMPLETELY from my diet (for at least the first month). Hopefully it’ll be a resolution that can last!

6. Celebrate Life. Celebrate People. Maybe this is more of my life mantra. But this year I really want to celebrate. I know life can get busy, but that’s no reason to let birthdays and accomplishments go by without anything. I want to really hone in on other people, focusing outward and upward, and let them know how special and loved they are! This goes especially for my husband and family. (I don’t celebrate them enough and I really want to do that this year.) But also friends! I want to do THIS. And I want to allow mess and imperfection and total awesomeness back into my life.

7. Be more like Jesus. The biggest and most important resolution of them all! And I can only do this with the power of Christ. I love Him with all my heart and I want all the world to know. I want people to see Jesus when they look at me. And I want Him to be glorified with my life. Praying hard for this one!

Not in my strength, but in His alone.